Never obsess about chasing love. Chase goals. Chase dreams. Chase the behaviors that are going to make you better. You don’t chase love; you allow that to find you by accident, and when it finds you on accident, you’ll know that it was supposed to find you purposely.
When you chase love, you settle. Look around you. How many people do you think are settling? Probably a hell of a lot. People settle into okay relationships, okay jobs, okay friends, and an okay life. Why? Because it’s comfortable. Okay pays the pills, and provides a warm bed at night. Some people are fine with okay, and guess what? That’s okay. But okay is not thrilling, it isn’t passion, and it’s not life-changing or unforgettable. Okay is not the reason you risk absolutely everything you’ve got for the smallest chance that something absolutely amazing could happen. Know who you are. Know what you want. Know what you deserve. Don’t settle for less.
The best love is unexpected. You don’t just pick someone and cross your fingers it’ll work out. You meet them by chance and it’s an instant connection, and the chemistry shared is way above your head. You just talk and notice the way their lips curve when they smile or the color of their eyes and all at once you know you’re either lucky or screwed. It’s that moment when you’re in the passenger seat, laughing and smiling at each other. It’s the moment when you feel safe just because you’re holding their hand.
You might be single, but you aren’t alone. Surround yourself with the inspired, the passionate, the motivated, the grateful, and the open-minded. I think as you grow older you look for very different things in a person. Honesty. Loyalty. Integrity. But most of all, you look for people who will stand right by your side when the walls start crumbling and the fires rage within. They are right there, and in that moment, you know they’ve got you.
You don’t need someone else to make you feel valid or worthy. You deserve someone who understands how rare you are and how someone like you is hard to come by. You are fierce and strong, and full of fire. Don’t let yourself hold you back. Let your passion burn brighter than your fears. You’re too divine to put up with a someone who hesitates. Don’t be like “most people.” Most people don’t achieve their dreams, anymore.
Alone, by yourself, you can build the kingdom that you want. Today, I hope you focus on the love that’s surrounding you, in every aspect. Never stop believing that good things are on their way.
And just a reminder, you are pretty f*cking awesome. Keep that sh*t up. When things don’t happen right away just remember it takes 30 minutes to make a Michael Kors bag and 20 hours to make a Birkin…
Photography: Kristine Cramer Photography